life transitions and changes / re-evaluating our decisions
Monday, March 12th, 2007
what is my goal in this relationship.
am i here to have fun?
am i here to have a warm body next to me
am i here to build something with this person
am i here for marriage, kids - “the works”
what is your goal in this relationship.
i think that it’s so important to review the goals of a relationship every so often. we have to make sure that the other person is on the same page as us. when they are, that’s great. when they are not, maybe the relationship just needs an adjustment. some say it’s just growing apart.
i’ve just gotten word that my FRENCHIE’s cousin [OC] and her fiancé [OCF] just broke up. they’ve been together for eight years now - since high school. OCF i guess started asking himself if he just loved OC as a long-term partner or just as a friend given all the years that they grew up together. he’s wondering about other people and experiences.
i guess these feelings have materialized a few times over the course of a few years. this is normal. after all, he’s in his mid-20’s and he is re-evaluating decisions made during the past 10 years of his life. he’s reevaluating his decisions especially now that he’s going to start a new chapter in his life of being married and whatever comes after that. now that he is finished with school - i believe he has is MBA - he is starting to establish himself in the world. OCF is seeing more of the possibilities of the world (girls / experiences) that he’s never known before. he is wanting to taste this exciting new world that he’s part of. will he come back to OC or will he enjoy this new world without her?
don’t look at me! i don’t know! it’s his decision. and you know, 10 years from now, he will look back upon this decision and ponder if he’s happy with this and other decisions made after this event.
i wrote more on life transitions (click) here and i tried to write a summary that would do the following book on life transitions and life changes by william bridges some justice.
:: is this a cheesy pictures or what! ::
by the way, based on this, i didn’t complete what i was suppose to do in my twenties, so here i am completing it in my thirties. and what is it i’m completing? having full and complete independence.
